Today, I was doing some work at a church and there was a gal there about my age working. She was cute and I automatically checked to see if she had a ring on. She didn’t and I assumed she was single. Thankfully, we didn’t interact or it may have become awkward. It turns out that she is the pastor’s wife.
Just to make things clear, I am presenting this from a biased mind. I don’t have a problem with jewelry as many in my church do. I wear jewelry, but I don’t spend much money on it either. Actually, none in about a year and two before that. I say this just to be clear.
Now back to my illustration. This is nothing new in our society. About the time of the late 70’s, early 80’s, my mom had car trouble and a friendly stranger helped her out. He also asked her out and became very embarrassed when she told him that she was married. He was embarrassed because he didn’t want to be thought of as the type that hits on married women. Because of this, she got a wedding band. Even back then, a wedding band was a significant sign that you were not on the market, anymore.
Today, the same story could have occurred with me. Sure, I probably shouldn’t be asking a stranger on a date, but the point is that I expected to be able to tell if she was married. Why is it that some people still oppose the wearing of wedding bands, even in the younger generations? The only statement Ellen White, church founder, makes is that rings should not be discouraged from being worn in cultures where it is imperative. It has been imperative in this culture since the 80s!
My second argument for wedding rings comes from a friend that I’m living with right now. She mentioned that she wears the band so that people know they are married when they stay in hotels and the like. This speaks very true considering that it is imperative.
“Abstain from all appearance of evil.” – I Thessalonians 5:22
In today’s culture, if you don’t wear the band and are seen going to a hotel, it can be assumed that you do not care about abstinence. I guess you could avoid going to hotels, but it isn’t the hotel that is an issue. It is the fact that you don’t appear to be married.
Does the ring guarantee loyalty? No, but it is a symbol that you are not available anymore. My question to those married and not wearing a wedding band, “Why are you trying to hide that you are married?”
That’s my rant for the evening.
cheers!
p.s. I found the following article to be very enlightening. His conclusions make a lot of sense. I didn’t come to the exact same, but it is presented in a very well thought out and concise manner.
[UPDATE:] Since I’ve been asked by multiple people; No! This did not happen in my home church.